Monday, February 22, 2010

Teardrops Have Fallen on My Face!

Did you know that the average woman cries
an average of 47 times per year.
and that usually we waste one year and 4 months crying!
I also read that because we cry we are enabling 
our bodies to become healthier.
I guess that would be why there are things like good cries, and happy tears,
Then there are those heart wrenching cries, 
which I know for a fact that when my first husband left me,
I really felt like my whole world was crumbling,
I cried myself to sleep that night!
That cry changed my life,
2 days later I changed my name back to my maiden name,
and he went down a road of self destruction.
After that cry I knew I would never have that feeling again.
I think when you have your heart broken,
it empowers you to stand on your own two feet.
One day I felt relief and even thanked him.
He told me he did not want to take me down the road he was on.
and I am so grateful that he was kind enough to make that choice for me.
I did not know it then but I really learned it quickly.
I used to worry about him, but no longer do,
God helped me through the hardest time of my life,
Now my life is one where I still shed many tears,
but most of them are tears of happiness,
or tears when having a belly laugh,
or tears of joy , I have so many
blessings and I am thankful for every tear I have shed,
my reasons I am stronger, have higher expectations,
know who I am and what I want.
Last year I went through a grieving process with my Dad,
and I am glad I let that run its course because now I can think of him calmly,
and be rational, many tears were shed then, sad tears, angry tears, and questioning tears.
I am not telling any of you this to make you feel sad, it is exactly the opposite.
I believe this, we have the choice of where our tears will take us.
Through tears I find laughter and hope and renewed love.
So the next time you shed a tear,
don't be too quick to wipe it dry
Get through it and then look ahead.
Embrace all before you.
You may not know it now, but sometimes we recieve a miracle without knowing it,
Until we can see more clearly.
I usually don't get so deep,
but I have to embrace all parts of my life,
to continue to grow and become a better person.
I hope you all have a wonderful day!


  1. You have a wonderful day too Cinner! I agree! Tears can strengthen. We just have to be patient with ourselves and the process of the cry!! It is refreshing to get it all out. Thanks for the reminder!!

  2. You said it best - let the pain run it's course so you can REALLY be free from it. Sometimes this is EXACTLY what we need to do.
    Excellent post, Cinner! Thanks for sharing your thought with us.

  3. I really can't remember the last time I cried. hmmm food for thought with this post!!

  4. ED,,You know sometimes I am like that too, and then I will watch some movie and cry or something wonderfully happy will get me crying, My dad use to say, that is enough of that....Take care

    Anne, yeah I learned a whole lot last year, and in this lifetime. But you pull up your socks and keep going. Have a great day my friend.

    SueAnn, the process of the cry. yes and then you feel refreshed. I very seldom do cry but when I do I usually have to have a sleep, I swear I can always find a reason for that. I would rather laugh than cry.

  5. Embrace it all Cinner....this is wonderful sharing. I will look at crying differently now! Thanks!

  6. wow....I cry at everything....they fall so easily with the birth of a baby to the death of someone I don't even know....a hallmark commercial and things that make me laugh....if tears cleanse, I am really clean !

  7. I cry so much, when I am happy, enlightened, feeling heart-felt and sad. Yet I do notice the tears seem to be less emotional and more cleansing when they leave the sides of my eyes. Those are the tears that I pause a bit. The only ones I mind are the sob wrenching ones that you can feel emerging...right in the middle of a movie theater.


  8. This is a really really good post, Cinner!!!
    A key word in this post: CHOICE. That is a tough lesson to learn particularly when we are hurting. You say "we have the choice of where our tears will take us". Very profound. Very good writing in this post. The fact that you have had true pain in your life and have come through it to be a stronger person so that you are writing in you blog about it and sharing important information is a tribute to your growth. Thanks for sharing this post.

  9. Mizz Cinner, I don't think a cry is ever wasted. Every tear has its purpose, and while I may hide mine, I don't stop 'em. Catharsis is important, and weeping helps to bring it on.

    I'm glad you've found strength in the moments that brought you tears. I hope you have fewer such moments in your life (at least ones rooted in sorrow) and that you always find yourself the better for them when they do come.

    Shade and Sweetwater,

  10. Hi Cinner
    Great post!
    I embrace all my tears as I find I have learned so much from them, especially those that have come from pain! (as you have)
    The ones that come from joy, well those just make my days extra special!

    Thank you for sharing!

    Margie :)

  11. I really am not one who sheds many tears cinner, but my eyes grow misty whenever I am moved by something sentimental....Sometimes I think tears can wash the soul clean and allow Spirit to settle in and lead us. Wonderful post my friend.......:-) Hugs

  12. heart is touched as I read the post about the tears on your face.
    I am so grateful that you shared your feelings...and you are blessed to have been able to come to terms with what tears are about...and that good things can come from what seems to be 'tearfully' painful. Thank you...thank you so much for a heart-felt blog.
    Hugs to you, my friend.

  13. What a beautiful post! I'm glad you're crying happy tears now!!!

  14. i cry a lot. when i'm happy. when i'm sad. but over and above that, crying is good for you. it washes the pain away...

  15. Shadow, exactly then one day you find somehow or other you have worked through it. Have a great day.

    Char, thanks, hope you have been well, I know your so busy right now.

    Lois, yes happy tears, how are you feeling.

    Jackie, I think with everything in life there are struggles, but somehow, at least I have worked through so much more than I wrote about,,,but in the long run it has all been on a path to get me to this point in my life.
    Big hugs to you.

    Bernie, that is me to a T. I watched the figure skater last night whos Mom died, well I was a goner when she teared up. She did wonderful. IT really is amazing she was able to skate, you could just feel how hard it was for her to keep it together. I like how you said it cleans our soul and then our Spirit leads us. Have a wonderful day Bernie.

  16. Hi Margie, the pain seems to be our most learning experiences in life, don't they. Gotta love those days of joy, how was your trip.

    Kyddryn, I agree no tears are ever wasted, as long as we learn from some of them. Thankyou for you kind wishes, I have to come by and read about your trip. I will try and stop by in the morning. take care, hope all is well.

    TechnoBabe, thankyou, I am not feeling bad about anything I have ever gone through, but I always have known that I have the choice to wallow in things or to suck it up butterfly. you share your learnings too, that is one of the reasons I love your blog. Take care and have a great day.

    Karen I hate the ones in a theater, trying to stifle your tears. I saw the Notebook in a theater, wrong, I also rented it for home so I could really let loose. lol. Thanks for visiting.

    Beth, well you must be very clean. lol. you know those hallmark commercials get me everytime. And that extreme makeover home edition. every single time.....haave a great day Beth. Take care.

    Cora, lots of times I cry when I am cooking, because I am not the greatest at it, then I read your blog and I think I need to hang around with you, so some of your skills rub off on me. lol. Have a great day.


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