Hi Everybody, I am having a lovely visit with my Mom!
Although I have to say she is freezing and believes the frost on my window may be a contributor.
As you can see that is not just my window but the window from my neighbors as well next door.
I was as hot as could be and she said feel my hand. I swear she had it stuck in a snowbank.
Anyway turn up the heat we did, she sat with a blanket on, I sat fanning myself with a piece of paper.
We had a few good laughs over this!
We have had a quite a few good laughs!
She likes dogs, but coming from the farm, she never really understood why you would let dogs run
rampant around in your house,
although she did say they were very well behaved.
She did not say that at seven am. when my husband had just went out the door,
And the biggest dog jumped up on the futon where Mom was sleeping.
He was trying to look out to see his Dad leaving for work.
I was sound asleep and I hear,
Help get him off of hear!
I thought to myself, Can I just peel myself off the ceiling first?
Anyway Day one had a lot of laughs for us.
She brought 2 coolers here filled with food, which is fabulous!
I had very little room in my freezer, and she said well you must have another one.
No Mom one is enough, well SHe says I always had 3 on the farm!
Since my Dad has passed away she has still been cooking like she used to,
and she says she just can't eat it all. I told her she has to cut down. I might take
some of these pies to one of the Homeless Shelters!
I asked her today if she had forgotten I am quite a large lady,
not matter how you put it I don't need more deserts.
For a little lady she can eat and eat.
If I eat anything it sticks to my no neck
That is what she loves to do is bake and show us how much love she has to give us that way.
She is staying a couple more days.
We had a few crying and laughing sessions today.
Our whole family misses my father something drastically,
She said some days she just cries and does not know why.
I just held her and said Mom of course you know why,
You lost your husband of 47 years!
After we finished our girl fest what do you think we did,
We ate desert. a drumstick desert.
I will get the recipe.
I don't think anyone should not try this,
But I think it will be your favorite.
I have decided this, when a family goes through a crisis, and not everyone acts how others think they should,
I would just like to mention that nobody is perfect, nor should they be expected to be, and where as children do we get the ideas that because we have parents that they are qualified to be perfect, and that they should know everything just because. I think preasure to parents must be pretty hard!
I don't have kids but you know , grieving families can have very high expectations of
one another. When I was a child I felt like my Dad just knew everything about everything!
We had many good times, a few bad times, I would give everything for more times,
but we must survive knowing he is in a better place, it was his time!
I ache for myself when I miss him, to see my Mom breakdown saddens me.
We decided we are going to be fine, had another piece of desert,
went for a walk, The rest of the day we ate salad!
Lots of the day I spent just holding Mom as she talked about Dad.
I think talking is all part of the process.
She decorated for Christmas,
for which I am glad.
I can make my Mom laugh and laugh.
I know in my heart she is going to be just fine.
I will hold her hand along the way as much as I can.!
Peace to you all, wonderful blessings for the holiday season.
I will be back maybe by Sunday!